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Offline mrs_lady

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I live alone.......
« on: May 07, 2008, 10:37:52 PM »
I need to have 2 knee replacements, 1 at a time.  After being released from the hospital is it posible to recoup without somebody there to help?  I understand that a physical therapist will be visiting, not sure if its every day or a few times a week.  I dont have anybody who will come and stay with me.  I want to stay at home as I live over my little store and need to be close by to continue working, signing checks, etc.  My guys will run the files up and down the stairs and be around at least during the day.  Is is absolutely necessary to not be alone for the first few weeks, have any of you done it?  Best wishes to all.  mrs_lady 

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« Reply #1 on: May 07, 2008, 10:53:19 PM »
wow i am soooo sorry you are alone there....... I know you may not want to consider this...but will your insurance pay for temporary nursing care lodging.....just until you heal??? I dont know anything about healing from TKR But I have tons of sympathy for you trying to get through this without anyone...because I know how hard recovery is  even with people to help . My sisters insurance was oging to pay for her to have temporary lodging in an extended care facility...maybe check into that...make a looooong list of questions like this for your doctor...make sure they dont leave you in the lurch over this...and come here and ask  questions and talk..there are some helpful hints to getting around in your apartment....can someone set you up downstairs with a recliner, table, bathing stuff, etc..what about home health...can they get you a bed, shower seat, bed side commode???? etc. I will be thinking of you.

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« Reply #2 on: May 08, 2008, 12:30:39 AM »
If you plan to come straight home from the hospital (after the typical 3 day stay), you will need to have someone with you. While you will be able to get to the bathroom yourself, you will not be able to cook meals or do other activities of daily living. If you live alone, you will need to go to a rehab facility for a week or two until you are able to care for yourself. Definitely talk to your doctor about this!

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Torn quad tendon repair & VMO advancement 4/99, MUA with LOA 10/99, Patella baja and arthrofibrosis, LR & medial release & LOA 5/01, LOA & chondroplasty 6/03,TKR on 11/06, MUA 12/06. From perfect knees to a TKR in 7 years, all from a fall on a wet floor...and early undiagnosed scar tissue.

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« Reply #3 on: May 08, 2008, 01:43:13 AM »
please don't try to do this alone. this surgery is major. you will be utterly reduced physically, emotionally and psychologically. there's a lot of pain involved and you never know what complications might come with the surgery. being alone when you're incapacitated and in pain can be very dangerous. please look into the possibilities available to you, including home nursing care. my mother's friend paid someone to stay with her for the first two weeks. this woman shopped for her, cooked her meals, helped her get to and from the bathroom, and stayed with her through the night. please listen to us who have been through it and don't take any unnecessary risks with your life and health.

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« Reply #4 on: May 08, 2008, 03:57:43 AM »
You should not try this alone, you will need full time care either at a rehab facility or at your own home.  You will most likely be on pain killers and be very unsteady.  Your insurance company should pay for a rehab facility.  If you really can't do a facility, consider hiring someone to spend at least the first 2 weeks with you.  Your local church may be able to provide you a list of reliable people,
8/4/07 fell
8/5 diagnosed TPF
8/6 surgery plate and 6 screws
8/12 out of hospital NWM
8/21 staples removed
9/18 OS appt - WBAT with crutches
10/10 - WBAT with cane
10/27 - back to work w/cane
12/26 - no cane, slight limp when tired
1/25/08 - released from PT, no limp
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« Reply #5 on: May 08, 2008, 01:03:17 PM »
Actually you can do this alone.  I did.  I live alone and came directly home from the hospital after each of my TKRs.  I was well prepared before hand.  I had frozen food ready to pop into the microwave.  I had the ability to use a grocery delivery service.  I hired a maid service to come in every couple of weeks to clean.  My pharmacy had a delivery service so I could get my medications delivered to my home.  Part of my comfort was that I had enough knee surgeries prior to my TKR where I was comfortable in moving around with crutches and knew the tricks with carrying things around the house to where I needed them.  I knew how to get in and out of the shower.  I knew how to easily get to the basement to do laundry and change the cat box. 

Preparation is key.  Its not easy by any means but it can be done. 
Right knee - 14 surgeries including a fulkerson, patellectomy and finally a TKR. Left knee - Lateral release, microfracture, TKR, then another LR, spacer replacement.

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« Reply #6 on: May 09, 2008, 01:42:31 AM »
 I had also had lots of knee surgeries and thought I was well prepared for the TKR. I had made all the necessary changes at the house (moving a bed to the first floor, etc.). But I still couldn't have spent the first week, maybe even two, on my own. Then I had some complications and had to have a MUA, which set me back again and I needed help again for another week. While it may be *possible* to do this along (I'm impressed with you, Sandy), I think the better advice is to find a way to have someone with you.

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Torn quad tendon repair & VMO advancement 4/99, MUA with LOA 10/99, Patella baja and arthrofibrosis, LR & medial release & LOA 5/01, LOA & chondroplasty 6/03,TKR on 11/06, MUA 12/06. From perfect knees to a TKR in 7 years, all from a fall on a wet floor...and early undiagnosed scar tissue.

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« Reply #7 on: September 01, 2008, 09:46:04 PM »
Thanks to everybody who replied.  Had some other problems arise and this is the first time that i checked back in here.  I am trying to find somebody to stay with me, had 3 possibilities, one left the country, the other 2 got sick!  So Im batting zero so far. 
     I would have help nearby, live upstairs over my shop and my employees help me so much now feel I am already in assisted living.  But I would be alone at night and then there is the question of showering.     
     Supposedly the physical therapist makes house calls.  I live in venezuela and there are no rehab places that I know of.  I wanted to stay close to work to keep involved in the business but maybe Im dreaming that I would be able to with everything else.
     My husband died years ago, Im so scared to face this alone, Im not in my own country either but have insurance here, live in Venezuela.  But the doctor is a specialist in knees, speaks english, has been recommnded by so many.  Its just that I never in all my 65 years ever had to stay in a hospital ever let alone have surgery.  I wish I had a hand to hold.  Im just so scared.
     

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« Reply #8 on: September 01, 2008, 10:16:00 PM »
mrs lady
please don't be scared. if you need the surgery then grit your teeth and go for it. you'll be more functional and in control of your life once it's all over and you've gotten through recovery. i still think you need someone with you, but i've read posts from people who got through this all alone, so i know it's possible. showering isn't difficult if you get yourself set up ahead of time. if at all possible, you need a walk-in shower and a seat or a stool. put the stool in the shower and sit while you bathe. i did this all by myself from the very beginning, as soon as i returned home after surgery. you'll need crutches to get to the shower and to move around the house. finally, if you can, get yourself a toilet seat--the handles are really helpful when you can't depend on your legs. the main reason i needed someone with me was psychological--i was in so much pain and so depressed and vulnerable. my pain was caused by a destroyed leg that had been deteriorating for years and lots of nerve damage. in addition, i fractured my foot after they got me up walking in the hospital. if your knees are deteriorated from normal wear and tear your pain won't be so bad. we all do what we can. if the only way you can do this is alone, then that's what you'll have to do. they won't let you out of the hospital until you're viable, until the pain is under control and you can get around. see what your employees can do for you, whether they can help by bringing you food, cleaning your house, or keeping you company. keep in touch. i wish you the best.
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