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Offline Amanda1975

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stupid husband
« on: July 21, 2007, 11:13:52 PM »
Grrrr My Husband!!  Makes me want to swear!!!

Yesterday he came home from work in a really bad mood, when I asked what was wrong he said he was sick of coming home to a pigsty where I had done no housework and that he felt like he was doing everything on his own.

It is 4 weeks since my operation, I still cannot bear wieght properly, needing crutches to get around.  You need hands to do house work and they are occupied by the afore mentioned crutches.  I mean really what does he expect??

Its only been 4 weeks, before that I was doing it all, school runs, housework, seeing to the kids, dinner, dishes, working part-time in the evenings, and trying to study. 

Oooh I got so cross!!

I need someone to tell me that this argument we had was not my fault, I didn't ask for a crappy knee!!!!!

Amanda
Degenerative Left Knee due to Maltracking Patellar Grade 3-4
Operation 25th June 2007
Lateral Release, Microfracture, shaved intrapatellar pad and Menisci Tidy Up
Right Knee chondromalacia patellar Grade 1
PT and HT awaiting review

Offline SuzanneT

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Re: stupid husband
« Reply #1 on: July 21, 2007, 11:17:56 PM »
You came to the right place if you want a vote for your side!  Suzanne
12/31/06 tibial plateau fracture (medial)
              fibula fracture
              patella fracture
              (no surgery, long, slow recovery)
   8/1/07  7 months, beginning FWB
   8/1/08  more physical therapy to develop
               calf & quads
   8/21/08 climbing stairs

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Re: stupid husband
« Reply #2 on: July 21, 2007, 11:28:57 PM »
Amanda
Hand him your crutches and tell him to do the chores with them. See I he can do any better. You always can use them as a head banger(his head). If he wants it done by someone other than himself tell him ot hire the cleaning out for a few months. I had bilateral TKR in Nov and live alone. I hired out for a few months and it helped my recovery for not feeling the guilt of a messy house.    GOOD LUCK????????        CAROL

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Re: stupid husband
« Reply #3 on: July 21, 2007, 11:41:28 PM »
Amanda,
           Tell him to behave himself and stop acting like a bloody tart. I had a TKR in Feb this year and when i got home i had the full support of my wonderful wife and kids. Does he actually want you to have a complete and full recovery or what? Is there someone outside your family or a close friend that could have a word with him?
   
Good luck

Gary

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Re: stupid husband
« Reply #4 on: July 21, 2007, 11:57:49 PM »

When you hand him the crutches, be sure to give him a good whack in the knee as well.  ;)

Jaci
10/03 Twist injury
12/03 Menisectomy- tears ACL, MCL, & LCL missed by OS
Arthrofibrosis ROM 38-68
3/04- 4/08 Multiple scar tissue procedures:
6 scopes w/LOA, AIR, LR, chondroplasty, synovectomy, bone spur & plica removal
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Re: stupid husband
« Reply #5 on: July 22, 2007, 02:25:59 AM »
Good one, Jaci !
12/31/06 tibial plateau fracture (medial)
              fibula fracture
              patella fracture
              (no surgery, long, slow recovery)
   8/1/07  7 months, beginning FWB
   8/1/08  more physical therapy to develop
               calf & quads
   8/21/08 climbing stairs

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Re: stupid husband
« Reply #6 on: July 22, 2007, 02:59:57 AM »
He may not really get how bad things are for you.  That makes it still NOT your fault.  He is always welcome to hire a maid to help you out once he has gotten up from you whacking him with your crutches.


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Re: stupid husband
« Reply #7 on: July 22, 2007, 12:25:37 PM »
Thanks Guys

Feeling better already, I think he'd had a bad day at work, its no excuse I know, I spent most of yesterday crying.

Anyway he has been very apologetic the last couple of days, what annoys me the most though is that I have to keep apologising for not being able to do it.

The PT makes me laugh when she says ' your doing well, considering what they did to your knee', sounds great huh, fills you with confidence.

Yesterday I could do the exercises no probs, today really struggling!

Thanks for the boost though, really needed it.

Amanda
Degenerative Left Knee due to Maltracking Patellar Grade 3-4
Operation 25th June 2007
Lateral Release, Microfracture, shaved intrapatellar pad and Menisci Tidy Up
Right Knee chondromalacia patellar Grade 1
PT and HT awaiting review

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Re: stupid husband
« Reply #8 on: July 23, 2007, 06:16:16 AM »
Hello Amanda, just keep your head up and don't worry about it you have to considerate on healing.

Get some rest and have a good day.

Cielee

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Re: stupid husband
« Reply #9 on: July 23, 2007, 12:27:37 PM »
Hi,

Why don't you show your dozy husband some of the responses you have here and point out to him that EVERYBODY with a knee problem has to be given enough time to recover fully, both mentally and physically. By upsetting you he is hindering your recovery.

I'm lucky - I'm just coming to the end of a divorce from a n unsupportive husband who made my life hell once I had our son. I too was expected to do everything without any help or support form him to the point where if I was going shopping he would refuse to have our son at home with him. I had to take him with me more often than not.

I sincerely hope things don't get any worse for you. But f they do, we are all here to support you.

Take care,

Laura x
Left knee surgery
08/06/02-L/Release
13/08/03-Fulkerson TTT
05/06/05-Stabilisation & Medialisation/Tendon Transfer
13/01/06-Proximal Hamstring Superior Stabilisation
06/03/06-RSD/CRPS diagnosed
20/07/06 + 03/04/07-Excision of scar tissue
29/05/15-Arthroscopy
02/03/20-Left transfemoral amputation

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Re: stupid husband
« Reply #10 on: July 25, 2007, 05:55:54 PM »
Amanda,
Although frustrating for you, I think your hubby is learning a valuable lesson about exactly how much you do in a given day that he is not even aware of. I know mine did - he had never realized before my injury just how many little things I just took care of.
So maybe you'll end up with a husband who pitches in more. At least that's something to hope for!

Emily
December 5, 2006 Slipped on steps, fractured patella - nine pieces. Ouch!
December 8, 2006: Surgeon wired it together.
February 6, 2007: Doc says it's healed!
February 14, 2007: Started rehab, 48 deg. rom.
October 2007, 90-95 deg., stuck! Rehab not working, considering surgery. Use cane.

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Re: stupid husband
« Reply #11 on: July 25, 2007, 07:09:38 PM »
ggrrrr!
men eh!!
sorry to hear he has not been very supportive to you!
unless you have to use crutches i do not think people realise how difficult they can be!
hopefully he might appreachaite all you do in the home now he is having to do abit more!!
i had a motorcycle accident-landed on right knee!(mar 05)
...arthroscopy - 4th feb 06.
...VMO Advancement,LR+JMedial reefing - 24th jan 07.
...28 feb 07 i fell down 14 stairs.....more pain and stress!
...now at PT working on ROM and strenghening















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